>> What if the Vostro 420 manual is wrong (again), and the upper limit is 8G, but you won't see it unless you're running a 64-bit OS ?
If the motherboard supports more than 4 Gb it may be seeable by a 32 bit OS if the right extensions are built into the motherboard. Some of the Intel motherboards have what is PAE extensions which enable support of more than 4 Gb for 32 bit OSes.
Now as to what your mother board can support; a similar question came up elsewhere on EE. The recommended answer was to contact Dell sales support and check with them.