I think you need another controller. Yours is a raid controller, and those usually can't be used for disks that aren't connected as an array or similar. A raid controller that supports hot swap like yours will also not show the drives as removable within windows. They are meant to pull out the defective drive in a raid 1 or raid 5 array while the system is running, then just plugging in the replacement HD, which will then rebuild the array to include the new HD. This is nothing the OS needs to know about and is therefore handled by the controller on it's own.
What you want is a non raid controller that supports hot swapping, so the attached HD's are just normal disks to your OS. Just look for a SATA controller without raid, but make sure it supports hot swapping.