So, so that I fully understand this:
1.1.1.1 is the T1 interface on main fw
2.2.2.2 is the DSl interface on the main fw
3.3.3.3 is the untrust interface on the remote fw
On main FW, the default route is being sent out the T1 interface, not the DSL
You are trying to bring up a VPN between the remote FW and the DSL interface on the main FW.
Is that right?
If so, run the following commands on the main firewall
get route ip 3.3.3.3
to see where the packets for your remote firewall are going. I would suspect that they are going out via the T1, which has a diff IP, and thus the VPN is being dropped.
If the traffic is indeed going out the T1, we need to add a route to send the traffic to the remote FW out through the DSL, ie
set route 3.3.3.3 interface ethernet0/1 gateway 2.2.2.5
This should then send the traffic to the remote FW out the DSL interface.
As above, the get event type 536 will show us more specific VPN logs